We’ve all indulged in a bit of public display of affection at some point. But how much public affection is too much? And where does it cross the line? The Super Fella explores the word of public display of affection and his experiences with it.
Public display of affection is common, and even inevitable.
It is quite difficult for two frisky lovers to keep their hands off each other.
But what about the people around them?
Have you ever had an awesome or an annoying experience with public display of affection? I’ve had my share of PDA and I’ve seen a lot of public display too.
What is public display of affection?
Public display of affection or PDA as they are called, is the act of two people indulging in an intimate act in public.
It could be a couple kissing or two girls holding hands, pretty much anything that displays affection between two people.
But when one uses the term “public display of affection”, it’s usually considered to be an act that is rather physical in nature.
No one really knows what people thought of PDA in the old days. But today, public display of affection is something that most couples indulge in, at least in the beginning of their days of physical exploration and discovery.
Why do couples indulge in public display of affection?
Why do couples indulge in a bout of wild making out in front of others when they can find a room or a backseat in some isolated parking lot? Cheryl, 23, says “I love PDA. There’s something about them that makes me feel so good. I’m not trying to do that just to show off, but it’s exciting to make out in parties when there are others around.”
Each of them have their own reason to give their hands and tongues some exercise in public, but when we look through the most common reasons, you’ll find that most young lovers indulge in public display of affection because they find it exciting and it turns them on a lot more than the regular kiss in solitary confinement.
My public experience with public display of affection
We’ve all been there at least once in our lives, we wanted to watch this great movie that we’ve been waiting to watch for weeks, and we finally get the time and the ticket at the same time. Whoopee!
But then the inevitable happens. A cooing couple walk into the row ahead of you and sit down quietly. It’s all pretty and the couple look into each other’s eyes every now and then. The girl slowly places her head on his shoulders and he gently strokes her hair.
Awww… warm and sappy. They look so sweet.
He kisses her forehead and she gushes. She gives a peck on his cheek and he grins. Now you align your head strategically in between their two faces so you can watch the movie, but they seem to be moving constantly.
Half an hour passes, and then the intermission comes and goes. Beyond that point, all you can see is each of them coiling and uncoiling with affection every now and then, and you get to watch them exchanging coke, saliva, and any other bodily fluids that is comfortably permissible in the movie hall.
It’s pretty hard to figure what you want to watch, your long awaited chick flick or the live public display of affection romp in the front row. The last time I remember being in a situation like this, I chose the live public display. I could always watch the movie legally on DVD, but I can’t say the same about these horny amateurs, can I? [Read: Flashing in public for the shy]
People that hate public display of affection
Can anyone hate PDA? Yes! Of course, they can definitely hate it. A person who thinks public display of affection is sweet can also hate it, and hate it bad. You see, PDA is extremely subjective and relative. If you’re watching a movie, and a bit of love and action in the front row, only to find out that it’s your boyfriend with the girl you hate, you will definitely detest public display of affection.
If you’re taking a walk in the park and find your daughter kissing a guy in the romantic setting of the potted plants, you would definitely hate PDA.
Well, you’re probably going to kill the guy and go to jail too, which will make your spouse hate public display of affection. So you see, there can be several reasons to hate this show of love in public.
And it can also start a vicious chain of public display of affection haters, and they would only breed more haters, and then some more. You can picture this, right? Or just go watch “dawn of the dead” or “land of the dead”, or whatever shows you a horde of mindless zombies who attack the naked women and the dorky guy in their bedrooms! That will help you understand what I mean.
As much as we want people to accept that babies are not dropped by the swans at our doorsteps, moral brigades and snotty neighbors smirk or stare dirty when it comes to PDA. So why do you hate PDA? Wait, I know, you have an ugly partner!
All of us know about making out, or want to know about making out. But yet we pretend like getting physical with someone is such a big deal.
If you stop the guy from kissing the girl in a movie theatre, they’ll stop watching movies and stay back at home so the guy can slip his hand under the girl’s shirt. So whose loss is that? You don’t get to see some action, and hell, they’re doing more naughty stuff in the room!
Now how much is really too much?
As much as I’m trying to say public display of affection is good, I’m pretty sure I would hate them at some point of my life. But then again, maybe not!
But in any case, there are a few things that should not be exceeded in PDA. This guide on public display of affection etiquette should help you understand more about it. No one wants to see any flashing of well concealed regions nor do we want to see anything gross.
If you really want to indulge in PDA, then make sure you don’t make anyone around you feel uncomfortable. Grinding and groping may be good in clubs, and kissing might be acceptable at airports and friends’ places. But in parks, I’d suggest holding hands and maybe a small kiss on the lips. Nothing more than that.
You don’t want some guy to hide in the bushes behind you and do some ‘funny’ things with himself while watching you, do you? [Read: Public flashing confessions]
If you want to indulge in something raunchier, and really want to show off, then I’d suggest you go over to a friend’s place and try your luck. Or you could even do it in your room. One last thing I want to remind you again about public display of affection is that it’s fine as long as the people around you are comfortable, or perhaps even happy. [Read: Rainbow party guide]
If not, then you’re doing the wrong thing at the wrong place. Just use your head and have fun with your public display of affection, but at no one else’s displeasure or cost.
There’s a lot more to public display of affection than just a couple making out for attention. We’re just warming up on the conversation.Click here to continue reading about couples kissing in public and why they really do it.
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Public Display of Affection in Upis
9112 WordsJun 26th, 201237 Pages
University of the Philippines Integrated School
Diliman, Quezon City
Public Display of Affection
Billones, Cysteine Babe
Cammayo, Pristine Mae
Lava, Jose Noel
Palomeno, Irish Paullen
Yabes, Jemima Grace
CA English 10
Prof. Ma. Lourdes Vargas
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Chapter 1: Introduction
Chapter 2: Review of Related Literature
Chapter 3: Methodology
Chapter 4: Data Presentation and Analysis
Chapter 5: Conclusion
Appendix A: Research Proposal
Appendix B: Outline
Appendix C: Survey Questionnaire
Appendix D: List of Respondents
Appendix E: Tally Sheet
Appendix F: Transcriptions
Display of affection in public is an unacceptable act but still observed and practiced in the…show more content…
On the other side, PDA has already become natural and merely accepted for most of the young adults according to Cheryl Wittier’s article posted last April 2011.
Showing affection in public can be determined by different acts of intimacy. It can be anywhere from a whisper to a shout. It can also range anywhere from a touch of hands to a touch of somewhere else (Wu, 2001).
PDA is very common, but still an unaccepted act. According to www.eromance.com, there are different degrees of showing affection which are commonly observed in public. There are acts that have been observed by the society without being neither offended nor disgusted. On the other hand, there are also types of PDA which easily annoy people.
Soenarie and Fehr-Snyder (2008) listed the accepted acts of PDA in the society. Talking in the hallways is accepted as long no one is disturbed. It is okay to shakehands, give a “man hug” by patting someone on the back and place an arm around one’s shoulder or “hook hug”. They can also hold hands and link arms in public. Giving hugs no longer than two seconds is acceptable as respecting one’s point of view.
Affection is not for public exhibition. Charlene Wu, on the other hand, listed some of the unaccepted acts of PDA in the chapter 5 of her article in public display of affection. Kissing is fine as long as it is not more than a peck on the lip. Passionate kissing and beyond in public is not acceptable. Sitting on